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Whether you run a Fortune 500 company or serve as CEO of your household, negotiating effectively is crucial to leading wisely and living well.
Leading and living are a series of constant negotiations. Consider what goes on during your typical week: Can you influence your client to accept your proposal? Will you persuade colleagues to give you the resources you need to finish your project? How will you ask your neighbor to switch carpool days so that you will finally have time to get to the gym?
According to conventional wisdom, a "win-win" outcome is the hallmark of success. However, until now, advice on getting there has overlooked one crucial element. It turns out that the most important negotiations you have, the ones that drive the impact of your leadership and the quality of your life, are the ones you have with yourself.
What does negotiating with yourself mean? It's what happens when you want to stay at the office, but also want to keep your promise to the family to get home in time for dinner. Or when one side of you votes to roll the dice and go for your dream job, while another worries about paying the mortgage. It's what you do when one part of you wants to give your relationship every chance to work, while another knows that this time it's really over.
When you're of more than one mind about what to do, negotiating with yourself is an essential skill. Should you say yes or no, or should you stall for time? Offer an olive branch or lay down the law? Speak your mind or hold your peace? When you know how to win the tug-of-wars inside of you, then you can "get to yes" in lasting and transformational ways.
With honesty, humor, and fresh ideas, Winning from Within gives you a clear road map for knowing your inner world and a method for sorting yourself out.
Whether you're struggling with a difficult customer or arguing with your spouse, by understanding what leadership and negotiation expert Erica Ariel Fox calls your "inner negotiators," you'll learn to turn breakdowns into breakthroughs. With the insight and tools to get out of your own way, you'll find new avenues to realizing your dreams.
“Winning from Within is bound to change forevermore the way leaders are developed. Its ideas and inspiration will take the business world by storm.” —Peter Guber, CEO, Mandalay Entertainment, and bestselling author of Tell To Win
“Erica Ariel Fox is an innovator in integrating transformational work with practical approaches to negotiation and leadership. Her new method will make a difference at work and home alike.” —Deepak Chopra, author of The Soul of Leadership
“Erica Ariel Fox knows how to transform her audience and really make them think, question their beliefs, and change for the better. She is a cutting edge thought leader and change agent.” —Puja Sehgal Jaspal, Principal, Google Compensation Team, GOOGLE
“I’ve worked with Erica and her team for years with both senior executives and line leaders. If you want to create a high performance culture, you don’t want to miss Winning from Within.” —Marko Satarain, Sr. Director, Head of Talent, Levi Strauss & Co.
“Winning from Within is an epiphany and inner guidebook in one. It reveals how our goals and dreams can be reached through knowing and acting from our best selves, but more importantly it teaches us how to actually do this, in work and life.” —C. Geoffrey McDonough, MD, President & CEO SOBI
“Erica is simply one of the best leadership teachers of our time. Her book will change your life. It changed mine.” —Nate Boaz, Partner, McKinsey & Company
“A practical, illuminating guide to living our values and bringing wisdom to difficult situations. A wonderful resource for anyone who seeks a richer, more satisfying life.” —Sharon Salzburg, bestselling author of Real Happiness
“Winning from Within revolutionizes our state of leadership education for students and global leaders both in private and public sectors. It is exactly the guidebook we need as we navigate unchartered waters into the future.” —Dr. Mariko Gakiya, Faculty Director, Global Leadership Program of The University of Tokyo
“A remarkable contribution from a new voice. If you read one leadership book this year, pick Winning from Within.” —Marshall Goldsmith, bestselling author of What Got You Here Won’t Get You There
“As a colleague, I’ve watched Erica develop groundbreaking work over many years at Harvard Law School. She is the right person at the right time to offer a new, more integrated, model of negotiation for people practicing leadership in business, in government and in non-profit organizations.” —Ronald A. Heifetz, co-founder of the Center for Public Leadership at the John F. Kennedy School of Government, Harvard University; author of Leadership Without Easy Answers and Leadership on the Line
“Erica Ariel Fox has a wonderfully engaging style-clear, funny, touching. In this appealingly personal, professional, and practical book, Fox brings the world of negotiation to a whole new level, by including the missing dimension: the ‘inner game’ —Robert Kegan and Lisa Lahey, authors of Immunity to Change Faculty, Harvard University Graduate School of Education
“Erica Ariel Fox has created an imaginative, innovative, and powerful toolbox for helping manage our inner world. Winning from Within maps a path to a better life.” —Dan Goleman, bestselling author of Emotional Intelligence
“Fox reports that the ability to “lead yourself” is today’s new leadership requirement, and this timely book is a must-read for library patrons interested in all levels of management.” —Booklist
“Many have discussed the characteristics of successful leaders; far fewer have illuminated how to be [emphasis] a more effective leader. Erica Ariel Fox provides invaluable advice here that is both insightful and pragmatic - clarifying the powerful ways in which the inner lives of leaders shape their external effectiveness.” —Mike Anderson, Chief Innovation Officer and Head of Leadership Services, Spencer Stuart
“Spend time with Fox exploring the inner dynamics of negotiation and you’ll discover a new way of seeing oneself as a leader and human being. Deep conversations, experiential learning, and self-directed practices all help ‘interesting ideas’ drop from the head into the heart where they transform into personal commitments.” —Larry Dressler, Author, Standing in the Fire
“After 25 years in the business, Winning From Within was simply the most impactful training I have ever experienced.” —Brian Ratte, North America Sales Leader, Industry Solutions, IBM
“Every so often a star is born, illuminating what we thought was commonplace and fundamentally rearranges the way we think. Erica Ariel Fox is such a star. She offers dazzling, deeply transformational insights, not merely into what we do, but into who we are. Read her. Your life could change.” —Kenneth Cloke, author of Mediating Dangerously Founder of Mediators Beyond Borders
“I thought I knew myself, but not at the depths I found here. Erica introduced me to myself at a deeper level than I even knew was possible.” —Linda Goodman, Idaho Human Rights Commission
“Winning from Within offers a powerful and practical method for character development, a missing link in leadership development that is increasingly essential for new and seasoned executives alike. Fox’s unerring, beautiful prose makes the journey toward a better self one that you won’t want to miss. —Amy C. Edmondson, Novartis Professor of Leadership and Management, HARVARD BUSINESS SCHOOL, Author, Teaming: How organizations learn, innovate and compete in the knowledge economy
It’s all good shorthand for practical introspection and guidance toward making lasting improvements, not by focusing on behavior or personality type, but by integrating all the parts that make us who we are. —Publishers Weekly
“Erica has the magical ability to meet people exactly where they are at any given moment. You simply have to experience her and the unforgettable energy she brings to the room.” —Jodi Hallstrom, US Department of Agriculture